Breaking to Rebuild - God strengthens relationships through hardships



February, the "Love Month" has come to an end. But Love hasn't though. And since it's still the theme, I'd like to share something God brought to my attention, and need Him to constantly remind me about.

We all know that disagreements and arguments are a part of relationships in one way or the other. I mean, there's no perfect human being, and where two or more are gathered together...well...some heads might bump into each other. It's easy to let go of and overlook some flaws/offences/grievances, but it gets even more interesting in a romantic setting or marriage, because humility must be put on to replace pride, in order to deal with the problem before continuing to build and move forward.

Despite all the sunny and rosy days, some days or seasons aren't pleasant. Our insecurities get activated, our defenses get shaken, our flaws get exposed, scars get poked, and all sorts of negative emotions get triggered. For a moment, things seem like they're falling apart. Some seem familiar and we subconsciously expect the worst. Without knowing it, a fear of losing something precious can take over. When that happens, one of two things I think of may happen; One, we run away and build up the walls in our hearts to protect us from the actual/anticipated pain. Or two, we try all we can to hold on to and keep that precious thing we have, trying to avoid any further damage or completely losing it altogether.

One of the reasons for the latter could be because in some intense cases, it gets hard to get back to normal once the storm has passed. Hearts and trust may have been broken. Egos may have been bruised. And fantasies or false expectations may have been shattered to pieces. But then again...Maybe it’s not meant to get back to normal. Sometimes things have to be broken in order to be restored into stronger and more durable ones. Sometimes foundations have to crumble to be rebuilt to support greater weight. As people, God always breaks us and takes us through painful situations while working on us (when we submit to Him), and we always end up coming out the other side stronger than before, more compassionate...depending on which part of our character He's working on.

God is a restorer, so even in relationships/marriages, maybe it’s about building something stronger and better, more beautiful than it was before. Just check out the marriages that have lasted decades, and look at those couples that have become inseparable; the ones we look at and go, "RESPECT," and applaud.

Ask them to share their stories with you, and trust me, you'll be astonished at what they've had to go through to reach that point.

 

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